Who they say you are

How much of who you are depends on who others say you are? This is a struggle that I've engaged in my entirelife. As the youngest daughter (I have an older brother/boy genius) in a 21st-century Filipino-American family, I have often been told how to act, what to think and say, how to dress (do the dishes, then the laundry, they always keep her running...), etc. It's a continual battle of wills trying to get my parents to see me for who I am, that is, outside of who they would like me to become. Given the generation/cultural/communication gap (of which I am all too aware), I'm not sure that we'll ever manage to see eye to eye.